In a recent study found that divorces in the nation have decreased by 18 percent between 2008 to 2016.  The data showed X’ers and Millennials are postponing marriage until they put their finances, education and careers on track.  As for the Baby Boomer generation people married young, got divorced and then remarried.  Regardless of your generation, divorce is still a factor in life and we have a few tips to help guide you through this difficult time.

1. “Winning” should not be your goal. A lot of people begin their divorce proceedings with the hope to beat their spouse in Court.  In fact, winning is seldom true in divorce.  There are many variables to be considered such as child support, custody and the dividing of asset.  There are many consequences of a Court battle that should be considered before trudging down that path, the biggest one is the cost of litigating a simple matter such as who gets the big screen T.V.  It is going to be difficult to put aside your ego but after the dust settles and the thousands of dollars have been spent you will more than likely even forget who “won”.
2. Try not to make an emotional or quick decision. If your divorce proceeding has been pending for years it might feel like a quick decision is the best decision because you just want the case to be over with.  Resist impulsive decisions and consider the potential consequences first.  Speak with your attorney about the various outcomes and base your decision on what is best for you and your family.
3. Everyone will have an opinion on your divorce. Your divorced friends or family members may give you advice about what should happen in your divorce case.  It’s important to remember that not every case has the same set of issues.  It is key not to base your decisions on someone else’s experience.  Rally a team of professionals such as your attorney, therapist and financial advisor to help you navigate through the process.   
4. Be honest with yourself and your attorney. It is vital you share all information with your attorney so that they can analyze your case efficiently and give you the best legal advice.  There is nothing worse than hiding a major fact in your case that is later revealed in Court.  If your attorney doesn’t know they can’t properly strategize on your behalf.  It is hard to change the mind of a Judge once they have discredited your character. 
5. Have reasonable expectations. We understand that this is a difficult time in your life however it’s important to take the high road especially if you want to resolve your case quickly.  It is key to understand how the law applies to your case and to have a reasonable expectation of the outcome.  There is no telling how a Judge will rule on a matter, your attorney can only prepare you for the possible outcomes.

If you are thinking about divorce or are already in the process, keep in mind that you will experience a rollercoaster of emotions.  Hire an attorney who you feel comfortable with and trust to ensure you get the best possible outcome for you and your family.